Bringing Sweaty Back


Welcome to the weekend.  With back to school and other hustle bustle obligations looming ahead I thought the timing of this post was appropriate. Coming off the heels of   previous post this week, ROAD MAP, this article will surly help you plot a unique approach to all the obligations in your world!


The older I get the more I abhor OBLIGATIONS.  This must sound strange because it goes against every strategic planning bone in my body.  However,  I really can’t stand having a week or a weekend jammed packed with a ton of social obligations.  Options are okay, but OBLIGATIONS just choke me out!  I blame Mr. Chicken Fry.  His aversion to planning but spontaneous spirit has rubbed off on me over the last 21 years. It’s also quite possible that I have reached middle age a happy level of maturity.  Shoot, maybe I’m just owning my moderately introverted side.

Let me explain.

I call it the cross over.  I have walked across the bridge from have to,  over to CHOOSE to!  In the last four years, I gained some sort of wonder woman confidence which freed me.  I’m now able to claim stake on who I’m and what I like to do with my time and whom I like to do it with!  So sue me if I’m super sensitive to over obligating.  I don’t mind having options but what I know about me is that if I over obligate, it only sets me up for failure.  I wind up dreading the event in which I committed. Then the misplaced shame of possibly breaking the plans sets in.  I’m faced with the choice of going with a negative attitude or going back on my world!

Can anyone else relate?

The greatest turning point in one’s life is realizing their limits.  It’s totally an okay to  pursue a vision on your terms.  This is code for finding ways to convert certain obligations into a love at first sight delight.  I need down time.  I just do.  In between my training schedule, mom duties and house work, I enjoy quite private down time.  This special time gives me the energy I need to withstand the social obligations that crop up such as funerals,  birthday parties, weddings, showers, and school sports and activities.

These days I only commit to one or two social things a weekend and that’s that.   If I have the band width to tackle an additional spontaneous invitation then so be it.  But this way no one is counting on me and I’m not riddled with guilt.

Now, let’s talk FITness.  

TRYING to be FIT always results in failure, guilt and shame.  But.. choosing...(not trying) a righteous healthy lifestyle will result in great progress. Yes, failures will come BUT there is a noticeable different approach to the failure.  Make sense? What I’m saying is… forget about the obligation of FITness.  FITget about it!  Your health isn’t an option it’s an obligation. The other alternative is death you do realize?   FITness as a whole offers up options to living a healthy life.

Don’t ever shame yourself if you don’t eat broccoli and carrots every night.  Instead find a vegetable you like, pair it with a lean meat and potato and just like that a healthy meal.  

Experiment!  Open your mind to different kinds of grilled fish!  Try a taste of quinoa or a cooked kale…you just might like it!

Don’t dig your self into a rat hole of remorse because you didn’t make it to the gym every day.  Be proud of the day you mowed the lawn and day you played basketball for 45 minutes with your kid. Stand encouraged at grilled chicken salad option and the guiltless grilled fajitas with corn tortillas you ate.

Think about this.  By cutting back on your alcohol intake a week you could buy yourself a new pair of tennis shoes.  I bet if you buy them, you will wear and use them. 🙌🏽  How’s that for changing an obligation into a better choice!

Instead of obsessing about shortcomings, you begin to obsess about your wellness.

Take the focus off of the work and place it on the well-being of your body and health.

My teen queen came to me asking to see a dermatologist for a minor forehead zit outbreak.  I looked at her with ♥love and said that I would be happy to take her to a dermatologist as a last resort.  I told her that she should first be sure that she’s cleaning and caring for her skin properly and on a consistent basis.  Also, that she should factor in the diet which could be causing the outbreak.  If after these things she still has a problem that then I would consider a doctor’s care.

This gave my teen queen an opportunity to focus on her overall health.  Diet nutrition and who knows maybe even exercise.  The focus is off of her scrubbing her face raw or looking for a quick fix.  This puts a spin on the well-being of her entire whole body.  Take the obsession off of the forehead zits and shine the light on the cause.

PS click here for the BEST zit medicine FDA approved pimple medicine I have ever used.  It’s called Remeclear by Remeverse.  It’s a $29 investment with a money back gurantee.  I promise it will clear up any adult, teen or back acne.  

For so many people, weight gain consumes them until they take a different perspective.    How do you do this?  HYPERViligane toward an unattainable goal or delightful fascination with metabolism, nutrition and exercise.  Open your mind up to the radical idea that your body is a FAT melting machine! How can one maintain this kind of delight?  Through FITmentum.  Building each day with a better bad choice tactic.  By choosing to exercise three times a week.  By setting the alarm earlier.  By planning, preparing and cooking well-balanced meals.  By spending an hour meal prepping for the week. Set the scene but don’t over obligate yourself to the point of frustration.




When I feel happy hydrates and healthy I’m more inclined to take on more social obligations. Once you get some traction, you too will have increased energy and a taste of a healthy habit. You will have tasted the FIT fruit and will be hungry for more!

Any thoughts?  I would be my pleasure to hear your feed back and or comments.

Love, drop the shame and don’t be lame!





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