This is not another ho hum preachy post on “HOW TO or NOT TO” stuff your face with unhealthy processed greasy junk food. This “do it yourself” tid bit is about pin pointing internal negativity that you ingested and is eating you alive. Don’t freak out, this is not some ghastly tangent about colon cleansing.
Today is a more lenient post that will leave you encouraged, but you will need to come clean.
Just for a second, take a stroll around in your mind and in your heart. Be honest with yourself and bring and awareness to what’s stewing and or even boiling over inside. What, if anything, are you marinating on day afer day?
Is it hatred?
Is it bitter contempt?
Are you eat up with envy?
Are you harvesting warranted or unwarranted anger?
Have you ever wondered what’s preventing progress in your life? Why you don’t have deeper business or family relationships? Why you can’t lose the weight?
It very well could be because you can’t get past the pride and envy standing in your way. You can’t connect the dots because the murky marinade has only feed the unruly resentment. You’re grudge holding is actually harming you.
After a while, the internal conversations you rehearse and nurse cloud your judgement blurring the path to true freedom and success. God can’t take you to the next level and trust you if choose NOT to obey HIS commandments. Love thy neighbor as yourself and FORGIVE infinitely as your FATHER has forgiven you. Forgive us of our trespasses as we FORGIVE those who trespass against US!!!!
“When you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins”
Friends, we are so busy running our scattered, goal oriented lives that we forget or don’t take time to be real with ourself. We don’t cleanse our hearts, minds and souls as we should. Instead we harbor grudges remembering offenses for years. Swallowing a false belief that our physical or mental punishment for someone else somehow brings them to justice. But all this does is spoil our chances to live healthy full lives. Pride builds up decay that spills over into our family, work, friendships and our physical bodies.
We have all done it. We humans focus on judgement toward others but can we ever really understand God’s mercy this way? Do we really imagine that those who have sinned against us have sinned more greatly while our offenses against God are minor and easy for HIM to overlook? If so we have it big time backward.
Pride, greed, hatred, envy, and bitterness are pain numbing characteristics that lead to self-destruction. The only way to detox is to choose FORGIVENESS. LET it go. As Christians we are called to look at the cross as the example of the ultimate sacrifice. But when allow the prideful grunge to hang around, Satan feeds on it.
Envy will eat away at your life and rob you of real tangible joy. Pride and bitterness erode your sense of peace. You might wake up angry and not even know why? For years you look into the eyes of your spouse, child, parent and see something they did a while back but you’re still holding on to it. The accused has moved on but you can’t let it go. The mere thought of a family member or old friend grates on your nerve enough that it ruins your mood and effects those close to you. All of these characteristics if not addressed, do serious damage.
You don’t need an audience. If you can get to that place and you are willing to be honest with yourself you can begin to heal. Get in a quite space. Say out loud or to yourself, God, I’m ready to let a bunch of junk go. _____________, I forgive you…..I forgive you for hurting me with your words or actions. Meditate on these words for a minute or two.
It’s that simple. You don’t have to make a giant production out of it or call a meeting to order. Just get quiet with God and let it go! Leave it at HIS feet.
Little by little the light comes back in. The chip on your shoulder isn’t so recognizable. Your body will let go of the stress from the anger. You will be in alignment to lose the weight, make the sale, get the promotion and move forward. Let God be God. Better yet, let God use you for bigger and better things. Forgivensss doesn’t mean you lose. It doesn’t mean you are weak.
Forgiveness is not letting the offender off the hook. We can and should still hold others accountable for their actions or lack of actions.
Forgiveness is returning to God the right to take care of justice. By refusing to transfer the right to exact punishment or revenge, we are telling God we don’t trust him to take care of matters.
Forgiveness is not letting the offense recur again and again. We don’t have to tolerate, nor should we keep ourselves open to, lack of respect or any form of abuse.
Forgiveness does not mean we have to revert to being the victim. Forgiving is not saying, “What you did was okay, so go ahead and walk all over me.” Nor is it playing the martyr, enjoying the performance of forgiving people because it perpetuates our victim role.
Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. We can forgive someone even if we never can get along with him again.
Forgiveness is not based on others’ actions but on our attitude. People will continue to hurt us through life. We either can look outward at them or stay stuck and angry, or we can begin to keep our minds on our loving relationship with God, knowing and trusting in what is good.
If they don’t repent, we still have to forgive. Even if they never ask, we need to forgive. We should memorize and repeat over and over: Forgiveness is about our attitude, not their action.
We don’t always have to tell them we have forgiven them. Self-righteously announcing our gracious forgiveness to someone who has not asked to be forgiven may be a manipulation to make them feel guilty. It also is a form of pride.
Withholding forgiveness is a refusal to let go of perceived power. We can feel powerful when the offender is in need of forgiveness and only we can give it. We may fear going back to being powerless if we forgive.
Forgiveness releases pain and frees us from focusing on the other person.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It’s normal for memories to be triggered in the future. When thoughts of past hurts occur, it’s what we do with them that counts. When we find ourselves focusing on a past offense, we can learn to say, “Thank you, God, for this reminder of how important forgiveness is.”
Bring some color back into your life. Brighten up your innards with some fresh air. Take a big bite into prayer and ask God to help you forgive. Tell God all the things. Tell Him you’re angry. That you have been angry. Get it off your chest. Maybe you are so full of pride you aren’t ready to get to that place with God. If your ego will not allow you to forgive then you will NEVER progress and transform. I love remembering Jesus’s words while hanging on the cross “Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing”.
Don’t let another day, year or decade go by living in the sewage of contempt and pride. Don’t treat your heart like the diet you plan to start next month that never happens. Forgive and watch your life transform.
Give it to God. His yolk is light. It’s better than any magic show on earth.
If Jesus came forgive his persecutors we can surly forgive anyone for anything.
Allow the Holy Spirit to move and fill you with peace and love.
Love, Live and FOR-give~